Welcome, it is always great to hear of a couple that leaves together. There are too many marriages that suffer or break up because of this religion. I am one of the fortunate ones because my husband came out with me. I found out TTATT and was able to get him to read C of C and then he did the other research. He told me he respected and loved me too much to not see what I had found out. Thank heavens! I look forward to hearing your story one day. Hang in there because it is a roller coaster of a ride!
Aunt Fancy
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Newbie: Well I've been lurking enough and thought I should say hello.
by Adventurousone ini really like this site and some of the comments i've read.
i was in the organization for 31 years and now i'm free!.
recently left the organization and am trying to rebuild my life.
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I'm somewhat back again
by Gojira_101 ini had to take a break from jwn here because after all the drama that unfolded over a certain new anti-wt organization i had to back off because i had unbearable emotions and "flashbacks" to being a jw and being bullied.
even though i didn't experience any direct bullying, seeing it happen caused all the negative emotions to come back because i felt like i was back at the kingdom hall.
so i just left for awhile.. i've been having to do a lot of soul searching lately and reevaluating my life.
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Aunt Fancy
Gojira, I hope it all works out for you and this will help you heal. You are right, what else can they do, they can't take your life. Tht is exactly what our therapist said to us. Do whatever you need to do in order to heal live a full life. We are all different and have to handle things in our own way. Keep us up to date on how things are going.
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'Great ROI'...successfully fading
by Skipper12 in6 months or so ago, me and my wife decided we will never set foot again in a kingdom hall.
about 4 months earlier than that, i stumbled upon an article about the wts being associated with the un.
that got me into finding out ttat eventually.
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Aunt Fancy
Welcome, and so happy to hear you have helped members of your family learn TTATT! I hope you can get the rest of your family out and some friends to boot!
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Howdy From Texas
by TexasEX inmy name may be a bit premature...because i'm actually still active within the org, but i guess you could say i've already "left" in my heart.
i'm just scared to take the first steps, because i don't know any "ex's" in my neck of the woods, and i'm very scared of loosing my family.
i just need someone to talk to.. .
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Aunt Fancy
Welcome TexasEx! My hubby was born and raised in San Antonio and that is were I was baptized. We live in the NE now. Do your research and keep reading.
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Tech49 on HOURS, TIME, and REPORTS
by Tech49 ini thought i would share some of my observations on counting field service time, reports, etc.
and how those reports are viewed, to those that are still so fixated on numbers.. i served as secretary on the service committee for many years, and have seen it all!.
i was really disheartened when wt changed the requirement for aux pioneering to allow for 30 hrs, instead of the 50 it has been for so long.
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Aunt Fancy
Very interesting post. My husband and I never padded our report either. There was a COBE of a local congregation and he and his wife worked FT, had children and pioneered too. This is how they did it, they would placed a mag or knocked on a door before FS then they would meet for FS but continue their time then do errands and every place they stopped they would leave a tract, then they traveled to visit their family 2 hours away and keep the time going by stopping for gas or snacks and leaving tracts. They did this all day long and got their pioneering hours by doing this.
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Fading ... and Feeling Lost
by What Now? inprior to that we had been in a new congregation for about 9 months, and we were just irregular.
my husband rarely went, and i would go occasionally with our toddler son just enough to show our faces and keep the elders off our backs, and for the sake of some friendships in our old hall.
all of the reasons i had for going were just no longer important.
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Aunt Fancy
I did not grow up as a JW so I wasn't as strict about having worldly friends. I kept in touch with a few friends even though I didn't see them often but my hubby was a born in and it was very difficult on him. He would do something and meet a new person and was surprised they were so nice. It is kind of a joke between us whenever we meet someone new and they are good we say to each other "but aren't they going to be destroyed at Armagedon"??? There are so many wonderful people out here and to enjoy exciting new experiences. I think of all the years wasted because you would be out in service on Sat and then not do nothing after. Recently we were out meeting someone on a Saturday and enjoying a new place and thinking there is a whole world out there that we haven't seen!
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Up-skirt voyeur pervert is a Jehovah's Witness
by RayPublisher inthis jw guy put a camera in his bookbag and went around snapping pics... sick.. .
http://www.stuff.co.nz/dominion-post/news/8799082/up-skirt-voyeur-a-jehovah-witness.
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Aunt Fancy
What a sicko! The article never said if the creep was in prison where he belongs.
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Overlapping Generations: A wacky kool-aid thread
by RayPublisher inanother wacky kool aid thread for your reading pleasure from the hardcore dubbs on jw talk dot net is here if you want to read it:.
they wax philosophical, they curse this horrible old world, they gently try to project how soon the big a will come, and then swoon when someone quotes a tidbit from a gb member that they overheard.
warning: those with weak stomachs do not read!.
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Aunt Fancy
LOL Redvip! I was reading this to hubby and we both just shook our heads and laughed at the thought that we use to believe these nutty lies. You read or hear it now and you just can't even believe a word of it. Ugg......
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Fading ... and Feeling Lost
by What Now? inprior to that we had been in a new congregation for about 9 months, and we were just irregular.
my husband rarely went, and i would go occasionally with our toddler son just enough to show our faces and keep the elders off our backs, and for the sake of some friendships in our old hall.
all of the reasons i had for going were just no longer important.
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Aunt Fancy
Don't give up because that is exactly what the WTBS wants you to do. We faded last summer after the Friday session of the DC and switched congregations just before we faded only attending one meeting. Keep finding things that you are interested in and you will find new friends. Your children will be a great way to meet people. You will go through lonely times because we are conditioned to only associate with JW's so our circle of friends is limited to just them. My husband loves music and playing the guitar so he joined some Meet Up Groups. You can go on line and look up Meet Up and there are a lot of different groups to join. I started bowling so that helped me meet women my age. It won't happen over night and there will be times you will be discouraged. Also, do more things with your husband, we go out on dates and enjoy our time with each other. Hang in there!
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I just informed the parents about me and the TTATT... heart wrenching
by sosoconfused inwell first i want to thank everyone here for the good points etc... i have received over the last few months.
you guys have really been helpful!.
so the other day my mother wrote me a 3 page letter telling me how she was so scared for me because she could tell my love for the truth was gone etc.. so i decided i wanted to totally rip the band-aid off and get this matter over and done with.
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Aunt Fancy
Wow! I was writing my comment at the same time you wrote your reply. Your Dad is a good man and you are so fortunate he is being loving towards you. I had a feeling something about the religion bothered him. My husband was a long time elder and he stepped down because he did not like the things that were taking place. I honestly think there are many elders that know things aren't right and they either step down, continue because they think they can change things (which they can't), they stay because they don't want to give up their power and position or they have family they don't want to disappoint. I think this is an opportunity for you to have an even closer relationship. There is so much freedom with being honest and you are going to continue to heal now.